I’ve struggled with porn my entire life. I’ve also wanted to quit porn for almost my entire life.
In this essay, I want to dive into the problem with pornography in modern times, and believe me, it is a big problem.
Since I was 13, I’ve used porn. To me it became as natural as eating or going to school. Once I received my own desktop computer at age 15, it got so much worse. I believe that my story is not an exception for men my age, but rather the rule. High-speed internet porn, way more graphic, extreme, and violent that the pornography of ages past, has crawled into our culture like maggots into a rotting carcass, and it’s wreaking havoc on our minds, our bodies, and our souls.
If your older than thirty, you may not realize the extent of the problem. Porn to you may be Playboy magazine or dirty postcards. If that’s the case I’d advise you not to go checking out Pornhub to see what’s going on. Just take my word for it, things have gotten a whole lot worse.
Obviously there’s the huge problem of human trafficking, rape, molestation of underage porn actresses or actors, and myriad other disgusting aspects to the issue of porn, but in this post I want to focus on the harm done to the viewer. I’ve found from my own experience that porn messes you up on all levels. Even in small doses, porn seems to break confidence, fog the mind, distort the libido, and block our connection with source.
This is why we must make the decision to eradicate it from our lives by all means necessary. I’m currently working on my own recovery (and it is a recovery process, kind of like recovering from being poisoned with cyanide for years). As with all other aspects of health, we are responsible for our own sexual and mental health. Porn-use is an incredibly harmful and destructive habit that must be left behind.
The most disgusting part of this whole thing is the ridiculous stance society and culture take to the issue of hardcore pornography. Once again, cultural ideology is at odds with actual human health. Not only does our society take a decidedly laissez-faire stance toward the abomination that is the porn industry, but it even actively encourages its use, in the name of “sexual liberation” and “prostate health”.
While rabidly decrying racism and sexism on the one hand, politicians and other influential people in western society will defend the blatant misogyny and misandry, the harmful racial stereotypes, and the inexcusable violence of the porn trade in the name of “free speech” on the other.
With their mouths frothing and spittle flying all over the place, they’ll demand harsher sentencing for prostitution, then afterwards go home and jack off to sex-trafficking victims on tape (because, in fact, you never know whether there’s true consent behind the scenes. Even nominal consent, when looked at closer, may have been coerced or threatened out of the person)
I find the whole situation wholly grotesque.
But then we come to the issue of the viewer. The average user of pornography. Porn plays to our strongest urges, our sexuality. It’s no small matter for someone who has grown up using porn as an escape from difficult emotions or circumstances, someone who has developed severe social and intimacy problems due to overuse of artificial sexual superstimulation, to quit cold turkey. This is a matter that is hugely understated: we’re dealing with several generations of people, both men and women (though it seems to be mostly men), who are, for lack of a better term, sexually distorted.
The worst part is, for the most part we’re like fish in water. Not having known a mode of existence outside of porn culture, we can’t understand what we’re missing. True intimacy, trust and sexual bonding are nonexistent. Porn ruins us emotionally and sexually to an unnerving degree, but most of us are completely oblivious to the fact. Of course there are people who manage to resist the pull towards the dark underbelly of the sexual revolution, but they’re few and far between. I strive to become one of them, and I’m getting closer every day.
It’s not a question of “streaks”, counting the days without porn. This is a question of paradigm shift. We need to whole-heartedly realize the harm that pornography is doing to us, and to the people portrayed in it, and make a decision not to partake. “But everyone else is doing it!” is no excuse. In Nazi Germany “everyone else” turned a blind eye to unspeakable evil. “Everyone else” is, in most cases, a bunch of morons. I say that with love, as I believe that everyone has a chance at redemption and evolution, but I’m saying it like it is. Forget what everyone else is doing and follow your heart. That goes for all aspects of health.
Mainstream health ideology is your enemy! Stop listening to the “experts”. They’re the same experts that told you that smoking was healthy, that female hysteria was due to lack of orgasm, that Aryans were the superior race. They’re the biggest idiots of them all, because they think they know what’s going on!
Free your mind and free your soul, and join me on this journey of sexual healing.
If you want to delve further into these matters, might I suggest that you check out my book (cha-ching!) Health, Simplified, available through Amazon here. It’s a nice and concise tome on my own healing journey, the insights I’ve gained, and the incredible transformation that’s possible through taking full responsibility of your own health.
You can also check out the other videos on my YouTube channel, where I go deep into various aspects of health.